my thoughts on this : (2)

I always love to engage myself in a debate. somehow, discussing something heatedly gives me pleasure. 

if someone screw up in their life. would you give them a chance? here's how I see it... 

over the years, I've met drunks, drugs-abusers, people with no life(those who live for the moment and slack around instead of building their future), those who struggle in their later life as a result of their ignorant in their younger days, and bla bla bla. When it comes to making friends, I'm not exactly picky. I have friends from different backgrounds. I'm comfortable sitting in front of a shop just talking with friends, and I don't mind just hanging out at posh cafe. I never look down on their jobs, and we respect each others. Yes, although it bothers me at times. The reasons why they're living a hard life, struggling each days just to survive, it was because they screwed up once. you know, those who didn't want to study and abuse themselves, get into gangs and all that. To those who tried to make a change in their life, I have a huge respect for you. 

One friend admitted to me he wasn't that bright. whenever we speak in English, he would complained that he didn't understand. One thing about this friend is that he changed his life. He do this and that, just to survive. and for that, I have a huge respect on him.

Another friend, screwed up his life at younger age. Alcohols, gangs and drugs. you name it. after few years, I thought he changed. He told me he changed. The truth, he has not. Alcohols, fight, street racing, loansharks, gambling. It was like, he hasn't really matured up. I have lost all my respect for him. He was given a chance to change, but he did not. At such age, you can't blame your surrounding and environments. It's all in you. It's your will to make a move, to make a change. 

I'm not being judgemental. It's a fact of life. Some people just do not have the will to change. Not everyone can learn from their mistakes. If your environments, your surroundings, your friends, your families still look down on you. It's up to you to prove them wrong. It's up to you to show them. Yes, I have seen some people made lotsa mistakes in their life, and yet still managed to prove the society wrong when he did change for the better. It's all in your will. 

I have a friend who told me that I'm too nice. I am not. I have many flaws. He once told me that he admired me for not drinking. doing drugs and pray daily, and still hangout with the likes of them. He wished he was like me. Here's what I told him - no one is stopping him from praying to GOD. no one is forcing him to drink. It's all in his heart and mind. His willingness to change. 

oh well. just my 2 cents.